Why Millennial Relationships Are Hard
Relationships can be tough. Whether you’re going through that little puppy love stage or you’ve been together for many years. Being in a relationship is like having a second job to be honest. It can really wear on you over time. Relationships can be hard. Why is that though? Relationships are supposed to be a good thing right? People get into them for various reasons. Happiness, Love, fear of loneliness, boredom, the thrill of stealing them from someone else and sex…oh yeah can’t forget the sex.
However it seems nowadays relationships are even tougher. At least when it comes to us millennials. We tend to jump from relationship to relationship like a game of hopscotch. In this modern world where everything is so fast pace. Our interest in our love interests quickly wanes. A girl having problems with her boyfriend that’s no biggie. There’s 30+ guys in her inbox hitting on her and sending her “questionable pictures” that she can dump you and choose from. Guy having problems with his girlfriend I’m sure he has 30+ numbers and a tinder account already set up. Millennial relationships are tougher now and I’ll explain why.
Lack of attention
We live in a world of short attention spans. We want something one minute then before we know it we want the next hot thing and before we know it we want something else. It’s a pattern that transfers to relationships. We find the girl of our dreams we date her. Take a little nap and then we are looking for our next dream girl. It seems we are never satisfied. Easily distracted by what we percieve as the next big thing.
Constantly curious of what the next person might be like. “Yeah, my girlfriend’s cute but this girl has a better shape or prettier” or “Yeah, my boyfriend’s a good guy. But this guy is a good guy AND makes more money.” Or we compare our relationships to everyone elses. We see that couple on Instagram that looks so happy. Or that couple on our favorite show.
We as millennials worry so much about what everyone else is doing that we lose sight on what’s in front of us. Your man could have had a hard day at work providing for the family buying groceries and etc. But because you seen your friend on social media out on vacation with her man with the hashtag #Me&BaeGoals.
You low-key now have an attitude with him while disregarding everyday he has been doing. Or as a woman you cook for him, clean, work and take care of the kids and instead of him appreciating the good woman he has. He’s fixated on a conversation with his friend where his friend talked about all the freaky stuff him and his girl does. And now he’s low key mad at her because they don’t do that stuff.
No Communication
I remember the days before Facebook, Instagram, Twitter etc. If you liked a girl did you know what you had to do? You had to……..(wait for ittt)………..Talk to her! I know, I know the horror. You had to actually walk up to her. Converse with her. Tell you were interested and ask her out for coffee or something and hope you had a good enough memory to remember her number or have a spare pen and piece of paper somewhere. Facebook wasn’t popular at the time. Twitter was just for sports honestly. Now there were online dating sites and stuff like that but the people who used those were looked at as…kind of lame. Imagine that now. Relationships are hard because there is really a communication barrier with millennials as whole.
So, what happens when face to face conversations becomes text messages and text messages become statuses? People forget how to actually talk to each other. Communication just isn’t what it used to be. Try to talk somebody nowadays chances are they are zoned in on there phones like a zombie. I see couples going out to eat and both of them are zoned out on there phones. More concerned about uploading their meals on social media rather than engaging in conversation. Shoot sometimes I even catch myself doing it. Checking blog notifications when I should be paying more attention to the person in front of me.
Social media
Ah, social media. I’ve already referenced this quite a few times already. Now I know I seem so Anti-Social Media. But without it where would I be as a blogger. Social Media is a way to bring us closer together. However it’s a double edged sword. Especially so for relationships. In my opinion it’s the number 1 relationship killer when it comes to Millennials. I see it as a fuel to every fire. And I’ll explain what that means. It’s the thing that eventually will put you over the edge.
You get into an argument and it spills onto social media. Everyone then gets involved while strangers like and react to it and everyone else is eating popcorn enjoying the show. He or she likes a picture of someone and now you’re stressing out questioning your future with them. Now you’re having arguments about why he/she doesn’t showcase you on social media.
But you really want to know why social media makes relationships so hard? You have so much advice on there telling you how you should handle your relationship. Yes, yes I know the irony of that statement coming from me but its true. I see so many memes or statues with really bad advice or better yet huge generalizations. And people really believe them.
They take it and run it. Rather than forming opinions based off their experiences. They form opinions based off someone elses experiences. You read someones post or a meme about cheating or being unfaithful and now your in bed looking at them differently. Already in your head accusing them for something they may have never done to you.
In Conclusion
Millennial relationships are harder in my opinion. The world has changed. It’s alot easier to get in contact with one another but ironically we are being pushed farther apart. And this is the same with relationships.
This post has really made me sound like an old man coming at the younger generation. But hey I’m only 25. I’m a millennial myself. All I’m saying is maybe we should focus more on each other. Pay more attention to your lover. They deserve it. Communication is key. Put the phone or the tablet down and actually talk to them. Don’t make them feel like they have to compete with some stranger on your social media make them feel like they are the only in your world. Like, Share and Subcribe and remember “Love is confusing but we’ll get through it together”