“You always want what you can’t have.” And that’s moreso when it comes to this dating world. People love chasing. The feeling of chasing is sometimes even better than the feeling you get when you actually catch the damn thing you have been chasing. Sometimes the journey is better than the destination. But where I am going with this exactly? Men and Women love to chase. It’s just the way it is. It’s more common with younger people because the older you get the more you want to “settle” down. But for the most part chasing is what people do.
Introduction to “Chasing”
Chances are if you are single. The person you want might not be the person who wants you. Or better yet the person may not be making it clear that they want you. For example, Ladies if you got four guys you are considering talking to. Three of those guys text you everyday, maybe even all day. That forth guy texts or calls you every other day and hardly texts you first. For most of you I bet that forth guy is who you are paying most attention to.
Why? Because he’s not chasing you. The other guys you got wrapped around your fingers but that fourth guy you can’t quite figure him out and all of a sudden you’re chasing him. Oh and guess what while your chasing him. He has four other women he’s talking to and only one he’s chasing. However it isn’t you because you’re chasing after him so he feels like he has you wrapped around his finger unlike the one woman he’s actually trying to chase who’s chasing someone else…..Ok alot of you are probably confused now. Breath real quick…Ok do you all follow me? Ok I think you understand the concept. Good, moving on.
Do only Men like to chase?
A common misconception is that only men like to chase. But I think women like to chase almost as much as guys do. However in this new social media age woman gets alot of attention by a bunch of horny drooling guys. Not only do they get cat called on the streets now they also get harassed over social media. Men telling you how beautiful you are everytime you post a picture with the little heart emoji. Sliding in your DM telling you they love you or want to date you, “I have alot of money boo”, “when you trying to chill beautiful” and the very occasional dick pictures they may spam in your inbox. Everywhere you turn it’s someone that wants to come at you and you ignore about 99% of it all. There’s no fun if there’s no chase.
Who does she want then? Maybe that close friend of hers she likes and she knows he likes her but he’s never made a clear move at her. Maybe its a guy she liked but he’s now in a stable relationship with someone. It could be the guy that’s always “busy”. And she hasn’t heard from him in a few days. It could be that ex who broke up with her who deep down she still wants. “You always want what you can’t have.”
When chasing gets “switched” on you.
Sometimes the chase switches up on you. You chase somebody and eventually for whatever reason you get tired of it and you stop. It may be someone else who catches your eye. Or your chase may not be getting you anywhere. That person isn’t giving you any attention so you stop. And as soon as that happens guess what? The person you’ve been chasing starts chasing you. Now you’re getting the “Good Morning” texts. Now she’s calling you out of the blue. Now he’s not so “busy” anymore. It happens.
When I younger I had a girl who was interested in a relationship and I’ll admit I was playing around. I had someone else I was pursuing. So I wasn’t taking her that serious and felt she was clingy. She called everyday sometimes I didn’t answer. She would text me everyday. My responses would be hours or days away. Of course when the girl I was chasing called or texted I would be quick with the response. So then later on days and days past. And I felt weird something didn’t feel right. Then I realized that the girl who wanted me stopped texting me.
She stopped calling me. There wasn’t anymore “Goodmorning” texts from her. So of course now I’m texting her Goodmorning, now I’m calling her. I’m getting hit with late replies, one word responses and missed calls. Now it flipped and I was chasing her. And then later on come to find out she now was in a relationship. Oh and the girl I was chasing before her now started to chase me ironically. “You always want what you can’t have.”
What happens when you finally get what you were chasing?
Alot of things can happen when you finally get to the end of your journey. When you finally reach that promise land. You may marry that person and live happily ever after. Or you might get there and realize that it wasn’t worth the journey. You might finally get with the popular guy in your school and then realize behind his smile and good looks that he’s actually a jerk.
In alot of guys cases he might realize that the journey of getting with her was more fun than actually being with her and might break up with her or cheat on her so he can pursue a new “journey”. People are addicted to the chase and you cannot chase something unless it’s running from you. “You always want what you can’t have.”
In conclusion
I think personally I’m just tired of chasing. I’m in that settle down mindset. But for alot of people especially younger people its alot chasing back and forth. And don’t get me wrong you don’t HAVE to chase. There are rare accusations where both of you chase eachother and everything goes smooth. It doesn’t happen very often but when it does. It’s W-O-N-D-E-R-F-U-L. I apologize for such a long break inbetween posts. I just been so focused on school but now since it’s the summertime. I can get back to posting. Thanks always for your support and remember “Love Is Confusing But We’ll Get Through It Together”