Love is confusing. That’s the name of this site and it’s the overall theme of almost every article I write. So what is love? Well one reason why love is so confusing is that everyone tends to have a different definition of what it is and what it means to them. However I have my own and today I will elaborate on what it means to me.
Love to me is simple. Love is……Loyalty and Sacrifice
Love and Loyalty
What Does It Mean To Be loyal?
According to Oxford Dictionary Loyalty is-
“Giving or showing firm and constant support or allegiance to a person or institution.”
Whether it’s for a friendship or a relationship loyalty is extremely important. When you love someone you stand by their side. You stand by them on their good days and on their bad days. Being loyal means that you don’t stab them in the back. You are honest with them and you don’t trade on them. You don’t replace the person when things get rough.
When you are in a relationship with someone you love. You are loyal to them. There are no “Side Men” or “Side Women”. There is no infidelity in a relationship. When you are loyal in a relationship you show constant support for them. You lift them up when they are down. And even when they are up, you lift them even higher. When you are loyal to your partner he/she isn’t a secret. Your friends and family should at least know who they are.
Why Is Loyalty Important?
Love is Loyalty. Loyalty is the most important trait one can have. Some people say it’s a gift you either have it or you don’t. Loyalty helps build a deeper connection to the person you love. If a person knows you’re loyal they will feel more comfortable around you. They will be able to express themselves to you in ways they may not to others. They will trust you with personal secrets or stories because they know that it will always stay between you two.
Loyalty is important because if you are disloyal you will drastically hurt the other person especially if that person loves you also. Once you come across as disloyal. Whether thats due to cheating or lying to them. It’s very hard to get the respect and trust of the other person back. That’s if you are even able to get it back in the first place. When you love someone shouldn’t want to deceive them.
Love and Sacrifice
What is Sacrifice?
According to Oxford Dictionary Sacrifice is defined as
“An act of giving up something valued for the sake of something else regarded as more important or worthy.”
When you love someone you are willing to sacrifice for them. Time is extremely valuable to most people. Hell you only get 24 hours a day. But when you love someone you are willing to sacrifice your time for them. Whether that time is spent giving them attention or showing them affection. You are able to put things to the side so you can be there to make them happy. That’s especially true when you have children that you take care of.
In relationships sometimes you have to sacrifice and compromise. Everything isn’t always 50/50 in a relationship. Sometimes she’s going to take 80% of the blankets when you’re sleeping together and you love her so you deal with it. Sometimes he’s going to hog the TV to watch his shows or sports and you love him so you cuddle with him and deal with it.
Sometimes people have alot of pride. Maybe they were very independent and were used to doing things on their own but now that they are in a relationship they have to sacrifice their pride and learn how to work with their partner. You may have to sacrifice that idea of independence temporary in order to learn how to depend on one another and be able to work together as a team.
Why Is Sacrifice Important
There’s alot of people that are in friendships and relationships simply because of “convenience”. And you notice once things stop becoming “convenient” that’s when the relationship starts to fizzle out.
If that person is only your friend at work because you drive them home. Stop driving then home and you’ll see how long that friendship last. If a woman is with you because of your money of lifestyle once your lifestyle changes she will soon be gone and if a man is only with you for sex. Stop giving it up to him and he’ll be gone as well.
Point is with love none of that matters. When you truly love someone you don’t care about that. Sometimes you are going to have to sacrifice and things won’t be so “convenient” for you. But will you still stay? When you see someone sacrificing for you. Giving you their last.
Taking the clothes of their back to give to you, metaphorically speaking. That’s how you know that the person loves you. Sometimes parents have to temporarily sacrifice their goals, their careers, education, a “fun” life because they have to raise their children. They do that because they love them. Sacrifice shows how much a person really cares.
In Conclusion
Love is something that I speak about a lot on here and will continue doing so. Whether it’s self-love or the love you give to someone else. Love is important and people spend their whole lives trying find it. Well, here it is. Loyalty and Sacrifice. If you find someone willing to do both for you with no strings attached. Chances are you found love. However it goes both ways.
A genuine relationship and friendship will always be long lasting if BOTH parties are willing to be Loyal and Sacrifice for eachother. Like, Share and Subscribe and remember “Love Is Confusing But We’ll Get Through It Together.”