I am a big believer in the phrase “action speaks louder than words”. When it comes to people it’s good to pay attention to what they do before you pay attention to what they say. Now everyone likes to be told how much they are loved. In most conversations with our significant others we end our convos with “I love you” or “I love you too”. We love to be reassured or reminded by our lovers that they do indeed love us and care strongly about us. We want to hear those words. What about the action behind the words. Without the action the words are meaningless. How do you show someone that you love them?
Make Time For Them
Understandably we all have “ish” that we need to take care of. We have work and other responsibilities that we need to care of. It’s only so many hours in the day right? However like I mentioned in a previous article love is about sacrifice. If you love someone you’ll take some time out of your day to spend with them. Or even if you absolutely can’t you can still give them a call to check on them and ask them about their day. Hell it only takes a second just to shoot them a quick text. Time is very valuable so it only makes sense to spend time with someone in your life that you consider valuable.
Support Your Partner Through Their Tough Times.
You can say “I love you” all you want. But those words are truly tested during tough times. If your man loses his job will you have one foot out the door? If your woman gains 50 pounds will your loyalty to her start to wane? Everything won’t always be rosey. How you deal with your partner during tough times will show your love and your loyalty. During the tough times you should be by their side and supportive of them. Giving them advice and showing them that you aren’t going anywhere. They may even want space initially but even still you can show that you got their back.
Lighten Their Load
What’s one way you can show that you have their back? Well one way is to help lighten their load. If you and your partner have certain roles in a relationship and you know your partner is struggling. Help them out. If she usually cooks and cleans. Surprise her with dinner and a clean house and if ya can’t cook there’s always takeout. Without you even saying anything she’ll know that she’s loved and cared for by your actions.
Be Your Partners Biggest Fan/Supporter
We all have goals and dreams that we want to achieve and we tend to discuss them with the people we hold dear to us. Whether it’s goals in the workplace or just goals in life we are very passionate about them especially once we reach those goals. If your partner comes to you happy about something they acheived don’t be dry or dismissive about it.
Now I’m not saying you should be waving poms poms at them cheering. But you should show them that you care. If your man comes in and tells you that he got promoted. You should be visibly happy. A little “OMG I knew you could do it babe!” And maybe fixing his favorite meal to celebrate could go a long way to showing how much you appreciate him.
Being A Great Listener
There’s a difference between hearing someone speak and actually listening to what they are saying. Hearing is easy however listening requires you to consciously pay attention to what someone is saying. If you care about your partner you will listen to them when they are trying to communicate with you. Whether it’s an issue they may be having in their personal life or if it’s just them prattling on about something that happened at work. Sometimes they may just want your undivided attention while they vent their frustrations or just talk about their day.
Show Affection
This may sound simple but affection is very important to your partner. I’ve even written a whole article on “AFFECTION”. Showing affection to your partner is probably the most direct way of showing them that you love. Especially if that person is going through things or just simply had a bad day. A simple kiss on the forehead even simply just holding them can speak a thousand words. A physical touch can communicate so much emotion without speaking a word.
Going Out Of Your Way
My short definition of Love is simply, Loyalty, Sacrifice and Compromise. Loyalty is being there for someone or doing things for someone when you know or expect you won’t get anything from it. A very rare trait indeed. When you go out of your way to make your partner happy it shows love.
Showing up to her job in a snowstorm on foot to surprise her with food on her lunchbreak is a perfect way to show her that you love her….ok I’m clearly exaggerating but you get the point. Going up and above for your partner shows them that you’re willing to Sacrifice and Compromise for them. Which are the two things that keep healthy relationships strong!