For the most part everyone wants to be in a happy relationship. However, the sad reality is that not every relationship lasts forever. Every relationship doesn’t lead to marriage. Every marriage doesn’t lead to you living forever “happily every after” with your partner. Simply put…. Shit happens.
But the worst thing you can do is be in a relationship that has clearly run its course. Sometimes we are so blinded by love or even our own fears and insecurities that we stay in relationships even though the fire has long been put out. Well I’m here to tell you the 7 signs that your relationship is dead.
You Don’t Trust Your Partner Anymore
I feel like once you lose trust for someone in the relationship it’s practically over. You can build trust for years and years but all it takes is one moment for you to lose it all. On top of that once you lose it it’s even harder to build it back up and you’ll never gain their full trust back no matter what you do. Especially if it’s something like them cheating on you. Or if they’re always getting caught in lies.
Now, you’re dating someone and you have to go behind them like a child. Checking their phones and Social accounts making sure they aren’t out here making you look stupid. Calling their friends to see if they are where they say they are. Nobody got time for that. Plus you are a team. You can’t be on a team with someone you can’t trust. Eventually you want to have children, get married and buy a home. You don’t want to take those steps with a person you don’t trust. It’s better to just cut the relationship off.
One Or Both Of You Has Changed
There is nothing inherently wrong with changing as a person. If you are the same person you were 5 years ago. That might be a problem.. but anyway. In a relationship especially a long one people change and people grow. Some people grow together and some people grow apart.
I feel like you don’t know who you really are until you’re like 25. For those young couples that start at like 16-18. Sometimes it’s hard to grow together. What you believed in when you were 18 may be night and day from when you are 25+. Your religious beliefs may change, maybe even your political beliefs. You might just be a different person in general.
You may be more mature while your partner still behaves the same way. Or maybe even the opposite. Maybe you want to party and enjoy your life while the other person is done with the club life and wants to work on their exam. Sometimes it’s nothing even bad and you just simply outgrow each other and the person you are dating has now become a stranger.
You Don’t Spend As Much Time Together Anymore
We all know about that puppy love stage. Where we’re texting all day. On the phone all night. He/She is always on our mind. We’re always in each other’s face. Sex multiple times a day. We just can’t leave each other alone….That’s Bae.
Now years has gone by and you’re just going through the motions. Maybe you and them are working more so there isn’t as much time to be together. You hang out with your friends more than your partner. You’re looking at other people or maybe you’re just bored with the relationship.
Or maybe they are the distant one and you notice they are falling back. Not texting back as often or ignoring your calls. Or even going through whole days without talking to you. Not wanting to go on dates anymore, or just hanging out with you for a few hours then leaving right away. The best thing you can do is figure out what their issue is and see if you can fix it. If not and they are still being distant it’s best to just cut the relationship off.
No More Affection
If the intimacy is gone between you two. The relationship is also gone. I have mentioned many times in the past about the Importance Of Showing Affection. I’m not even talking about just sex. That’s a small part of it. If there is no romance, No more kisses before you meet and greet. No more “I love you” after conversations. If they are sleeping on one side of the bed and you the other. If the fire is gone between you to. Either you’re going to have to rekindle it or you are going to have to end it.
You Can’t Picture A Future With Them
Let’s be honest with ourselves real quick. Not all of us date so can be with someone forever. Some of us are at that stage in our lives where we date out of boredom, loneliness or just pure curiosity. Or we don’t know what we want. Yes the person we are with is Bae for the moment, but we know it’s not going last.
The dude you messing with might be fun, exciting and adventurous but you know he’s too immature and unstable to trust as the future father of your children and a husband. The lady you’re dating might do everything between the sheets but her attitude is toxic and she’s too high maintenance and you can’t see yourself marrying her.
Or maybe at one time you did see them as marriage material but they did something that caused a huge red flag and now your mind has changed. If you don’t see a future with someone maybe you could give it a little more time to see if they change. But you also don’t want to waste your time and also their time. So once your 100% sure that there’s no future you should end it.
You Feel Trapped In Your Relationship
Sometimes in a relationship you lose yourself whether it happens naturally or if you’re forced by your partner. You become what they want you to be rather than what you want to be. You feel trapped. You can no longer be yourself. You might even miss who you used to be prior to the relationship. Usually this is the case in relationships that involve a very controlling and manipulative person that uses his partner as a puppet, making them do as they wish.
In other cases you may feel like you’re physically trapped. Maybe you have a child with them and feel like you have to stick it out with them for that child. Maybe you live with them but don’t generate enough income to live on your own and are dependent on them. You may even be married to them and realize that you have made a huge mistake.
I understand that, of course in these situations due to emotional or physical attachment you may not be able to just break up and get away. But you should be at least planning your escape route to get out of that toxic relationship. The longer you stay in it the more damage it does to you and everyone involved.
The Possibility Of A Breakup Is Always On Your Mind
A relationship in a lot of ways is like a job. If you wake up everyday thinking about quitting your job, then it’s probably about time you get to job searching. You’re obviously not happy and also, as a result you may not be putting in 100% at that job. Same thing goes for a relationship. If you are always second-guessing the relationship, it may be time to end it.
But first you need to figure out what’s making you second guess the relationship. What is the person doing that makes you unsure of it. Or maybe it’s you. Or hell maybe it’s nobody’s fault and the Timing Just Isn’t Right. Shit happens. If it is the other person, then before you make any rash decisions, you should talk to them and voice your concerns. Maybe you both can come to a compromise and work to save your relationship.
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