It seems like more and more people I see are either narcissist or exhibit narcissistic tendencies or traits and that goes for men and women. I don’t know if it’s because of the generation we live in now where everyone wants to be the center of everything and craves attention. Whether thats through social media or through other outlets.
The traits of a narcissist can be extremely toxic to the people around them. And the closer you are to them the worse it will be. Which is why dating or potentially marrying one can be very dangerous. For this particlar article I will be highlighting men. Alot you may be with a narcissist man and don’t even know. Some of you may have already dealt with one or even several of these types of guys. But without further ado I present 5 Traits of a Male Narcissist.
The Silver Tongue
The Male narcissist is a smooth talker with a silver tongue. He can spit game with the best of them. Every word he utters has their own agenda which is usually to either get you to do whatever he wants or to get him out of trouble. His tongue is also a double edged sword. He can use it to tear you down when you are at your highest and also to tell you exactly what you want to hear when you are down.
When he’s interested usually at the beginning of a relationship. He’ll sing many false promises. Similar to a politician. “I will never hurt you”. “I’m not like the other guys you been with, I’m different.” “I’m always here if you need me.” “We’ll be together forever”. He’ll compliment the things you may be insecure about. Such as weight, body shape, looks, past actions etc. But once he gets what he wants or gets tired he’ll use those same insecurities to attack you.
The Blame Game
The narcissistic man is very crafty. He can cheat on you and somehow make it your fault that he did. He can never hold himself accountable for his own actions. He has to play the blame game nothing is ever his fault. They tend to prey on women with very low self-esteem where he can use his silver tongue to convince her that everything is her fault. He’ll break up with her and get back with her repeatedly. And tell her that she’s the reason why they can’t stay together.
The arguments will always be one sided since he’ll always direct the problems or issues back at her. When confronted by others he’ll only tell you what she did or didn’t do. Or he will try to justify his actions by blaming her or saying that her actions caused it to happen.
Bow To The King
The narcissistic man swears the world revolves around him and that only he is at the center. He doesn’t look at his woman as an equal. He tends to sees her as a servant. Just like everyone else in his distorted reality she has to “Bow to the King”. He has an unearned sense of entitlement. He expects her to tend to his needs, or feelings at a drop of
a hat but either won’t appreciate it or return the favor. He’ll ask for head every night and only give her 5 minutes of action. He’ll ask “What’s for dinner bae” but will never ask to help with the dishes.
He also only does things on his terms. If not it’ll probably not get done or he’ll complain about it and play the blame game. He’ll be busy when you need him but will demand you clear your schedule for him when he wants you. He’ll watch you wake up in the middle of the night with ya’ll child but will complain about how tired he is and hard he works when you ask him to take over.
Talking To A Brick Wall
The narcissistic man is similar to conversing with a break wall. It’s always a one way conversation. There is almost no such thing as a “healthy debate” when you have an issue with a man like that. If he doesn’t agree with you then you have no say so. He will cut you off, he’ll attempt to over talk you. He will discredit you and dismiss you. With his silver tongue he will use any tactic to downplay your concerns.
If you come to him with evidence or with very solid points. He will begin to deflect from the issue. He’ll change the subject or he’ll try to joke or smile to get you back on his side. Sometimes he’ll even use the blame game to transfer his fault onto you. Then the argument will shift from what he did to what he’s now accusing you of doing.
If he feels as though he can’t get out the argument and that you are no longer “Bowing to the King”. He’ll start to insult you. He’ll call you out of your name. Using words such ass “Hoe, Whore and Bitch”. He’ll bring up things you’ve done in the past. Or personal things you’ve vented to him about in the past to attack you with. He’ll tell you he doesn’t need you and how your nothing with out him as he attempts to destroy your self esteem.
Master Manupilater
The narcissistic man is a Master Manupilater. He controls not only his woman but he also controls the narrative and the people around him. He protects his image at all times. With his silver tongue he convinces his friends and family that he’s the “good guy”. He paints the picture of him being the good guy, the good man…the hero.
When he fights with his woman he tell his friends that she’s crazy. That she always trips out for no reason and doesn’t appreciate all the things he does for her. That she doesn’t respect him nor does she “Bow To The King”. He plays the blame game yet again. Telling his family all the things she doesn’t do for him. And they believe him because they’re family and he can do no wrong in their eyes.
He has everyone like puppets on a string. The relationship is toxic on the inside but from the outside it looks great. He puts on the mask in front of everyone. Whether it’s in person or if it’s on social media. Then takes off the mask when the “camera’s” off. He has the power to even turn her own friends against her sometimes with his ability to control the narrative. The narcissist man will always try to make himself the good guy or the victim.
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