We live in generation where narcissism runs wild. People tend to only look out for themselves. People for the most part aren’t looking to get to know you. But rather they are looking to get something out of you. Whether it is physical, spiritual or emotional and modern day relationships are no different. As a matter of fact people that try to use or manipulate tend to be people close or intimate to you. Such as a significant other. Now originally I was going to write a single article on the signs of both men and women. But I decided to give both their own articles because men and women as a WHOLE tends to go about things differently. Now without further ado 7 Signs That You Are Being Used By A Man.
1. Only Hits You Up For Sex
Yeah let’s get the easy one out the way. If you’re looking for a serious relationship with him but the only time he contacts you is when he’s trying to fuck obviously you’re being used by a man. Also pay attention to the conversations you have with him. If every conversation with him circles back to sex or sexual flirting then he could be just using you for sex. Even down to his compliments. “Beautiful”, “Gorgeous” are compliments men tend to make towards women he’s serious about while names like “Sexy”, “Bad”, or “Hot” are used for women that men are just trying to fuck.
2. Lacks Commitment
Another sign to look out for is the lack of commitment. Maybe you’ve been messing around for some time and you’re wanting to take things to the next level. You’ll ask him “So what are we?” If he’s just using you chances are he won’t know how to answer the question. Or he’ll give you the run around and make excuses. If you’re being used by a man he will find every reason and every way to waste your time and energy without having to actually be exclusive to you.
3. You Only Operate On His Schedule
Missed calls and late texts responses are the norm. You operate on his schedule. He may only hit you up in the morning. He may only hit you up in the evening. It may even just be on certain days. But your life revolves around him. His time will always be more important than yours. Plans and dates will only be made at his convenience and can also be canceled at anytime.
4. There Is No Genuine Interest In You
Your personal goals and dreams will not really matter to him. Getting him to listen to you will be a chore. The only time he’ll be excited to talk is if it’s about whatever he’s using you for. The conversations may be very “surface level”. and may revolve around only sex. One word and two word text responses may also be the norm. Also very short phone calls with the excuse of being “busy”.
5. He Only Cares About His Needs
If you do get him to talk chances are the conversation will be all about him. When it comes to doing things together he’ll never meet you half way and instead will convince you to come to him. He will be reluctant to listen to you and your problems and may also just blow them off. He will be very selfish when it comes to the relationship. Whether it’s emotionally, sexually or even spirituality. His goal is to drain you. Which is usually the main goal of all narcissists.
6. He Makes You Afraid To Say No
The Male Narcissistic tends to prey on woman who either has low self esteem or a woman who has a good heart. With both it’s easy for him to make himself the victim. He will often make you do things you don’t want to. It becomes easy to use you since you now look at him as the sympathetic figure. Woman tend to be the more nurturing sex and the man will use that trait to his advantage. Making you afraid to say no. Whether he’s pressuring you for sex, asking for money, or even a place to stay.
7. Never Gives Anything In Return
A user for the most part only knows how to take. A user usually never gives anything back of value. I always say love is loyalty, compromise and sacrifice. You’ll get none of these from a man that’s using you. You will sacrifice your time and feelings for him but he will always be hesitant to do it for you. He will never compromise with you. Everything will always be about him. And how loyal he is will be based off how much you allow him to take from you. The moment you stand up for yourself he will leave and find another victim to use.
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To my awareness, men are full of emotions than they sometimes really want to admit. If a man truly like a woman he will put his guards down and open up to her and talk about his emotions or life. If you find that your girlfriend is always attentive and gives full attention to you when you speak (and not fingering on her phone) then she’s a keeper.
